Beloved, You Are Not Broken: Understanding Lost Love
When love leaves, it can feel like the ground beneath your feet has given way. As Psychic Sarah of Psychic Healer (psychichealer.co.za), I’ve guided many souls through heartbreak, and I want you to know this: your pain is real, your heart is wise, and your future is still blessed. Learning how to deal with lost love is not about erasing the past—it’s about honoring it, healing it, and allowing it to transform you.
Heartbreak can awaken old wounds: abandonment, self-doubt, fear of being unlovable. On a spiritual level, you may be untangling energetic cords—threads of memory, promise, and identity. On a nervous-system level, you’re moving through grief, which can amplify anxiety and exhaustion. Both truths matter. We heal best when we tend to the soul and the body together.
A Compassionate, Seven-Step Path to Healing
Below is the gentle path I offer my clients. Move at your own pace. Take what resonates, and return to any step as needed.
1) Ground your body so your spirit can speak
Place your feet flat on the floor. Breathe in for 4 counts, hold for 4, out for 6. Repeat 7 times. Feel the chair or earth supporting you. Whisper: “I am safe. I am loved. I am guided.” A grounded body gives your intuition a clear channel.
Try a daily ritual: stand in morning sunlight with a warm drink, hand on heart, and ask, “What does my heart need right now?” Write the first honest answer that comes.
2) Clear emotional clutter with truth-telling
Set a 10-minute timer. Journal without editing:
- What hurt me most?
- What did I ignore to keep this love?
- What am I proud of in how I loved?
- What boundary needs to be born from this pain?
These questions begin your personal breakup recovery guide—a living document of wisdom you build for yourself.
3) Release energetic cords with ritual
Light a white candle. Visualize a gentle cord between you and your former partner. Place your hand on your heart and say: “I honor what we shared. I release what is not mine. I call back my energy with love.” Imagine the cord becoming a beam of light that returns to the Earth for cleansing.
Practical support: a salt bath (one cup sea salt, one cup baking soda) to reset your field; a walk in nature to discharge grief; a cup of calming tea before sleep. These acts are small but sacred.
4) Reclaim your story and your standards
Lost love can blur your self-vision. Write your Relationship North Star—five qualities your future love must embody (e.g., honesty, emotional availability, shared growth). This becomes your compass for either reconciliation or moving on after breakup.
5) Restore self-worth through devotion, not perfection
Practice mirror work: look into your eyes and speak three truths—“I am worthy of deep, secure love. I honor my healing pace. My boundaries are holy.” Pair this with body care: nourishing meals, steady sleep, and gentle movement to help your system process grief.
6) Reconnect with life through micro-joys
Healing from heartbreak doesn’t require sudden happiness. It asks for tiny moments of aliveness: fresh sheets; a 10-minute walk; singing in the shower; texting a friend a single word—“thinking of you.” Micro-joys rebuild trust in life.
7) Choose your path: reconcile or release
There are only two aligned outcomes now: a healthy reconnection or a sacred letting go. Either choice can be an initiation into a wiser you.
- If considering reconciliation: Name what must change on both sides. Seek honesty, empathy, and consistent action. Avoid manipulation. Ethical paths to how to get your ex back include calm, clear communication and professional guidance.
- If choosing release: Create a closure ritual—write a letter you don’t send, offer it to a river or burn safely, and bless both journeys.
Dealing with Specific Situations
How to get your ex back—ethically and wisely
Wanting to reconnect doesn’t make you weak; it makes you honest. But let it be wise. Ask:
- Do we share values and capacity for growth?
- Are there concrete changes we’re both willing to practice for 90 days?
- Can we repair trust with time-bound agreements and kind accountability?
Build a simple plan together: weekly check-ins, individual support (therapy or coaching), and a shared vision. When clients come to me, we co-create a spiritual and practical roadmap—a living relationship advice book written for your unique story. If reconnection isn’t reciprocal, honor your heart by stepping back. Love that’s meant to stay will meet you halfway.
How to get over a breakup with a narcissist
If your former partner showed narcissistic traits (chronic blame, lack of empathy, love-bombing and devaluation), your first priority is safety and nervous-system repair. Consider a clean, consistent “no-contact” policy unless you must coordinate parenting or legal matters. Work with a trauma-informed professional and lean on a trusted friend to reality-check your memories. You did not “imagine it.” Your sensitivity is a gift; it noticed what wasn’t safe.
For spiritual care: daily grounding, cord-release rituals, and affirmations that restore your sovereignty—“I decide whose energy enters my field. I choose peace.”
What to Do When You Feel Stuck
Sometimes grief plateaus. Three resets can help:
- Change your environment: re-arrange your room, wash linens, open the windows, light new incense—signal renewal to your senses.
- Change your inputs: a week without doom-scrolling; fill your ears with healing music, meditations, or an uplifting breakup recovery guide.
- Change your tempo: if you’ve been isolating, schedule one coffee; if you’ve been over-social, create one hour of quiet.
Sacred Tools and Resources
Consider a blend of spiritual and practical support. These ideas can sit beside your sessions with me, not replace them:
- Self-help books for moving on after breakup: Choose titles that honor boundaries, attachment healing, and compassionate communication.
- Best breakup recovery programs for women: Look for programs that offer live support, clear milestones, and trauma-informed facilitators.
- Daily rituals: morning grounding, evening gratitude, weekly nature time.
- Community: grief circles, movement classes, and faith communities that witness your process without rushing it.
- Journaling prompts: “What did loving them teach me about me?” “What do I now require to feel emotionally safe?”
When to Seek Deeper Help
If you’re experiencing persistent panic, hopelessness, or thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a local mental-health professional or crisis support line immediately. Spiritual care works alongside professional care; both are holy.
For relational clarity, I offer three pathways through Psychic Healer:
- Psychic Reading: Receive spiritual insight on timelines, core lessons, and the most aligned next step.
- Relationship Healing Session: Energetic cord work, heart-chakra balancing, and practical communication plans for reconciliation or release.
- Prosperity Support: If heartbreak has impacted your stability, we can include blessing work focused on financial calm while you heal.
Your Next Aligned Step
Whether you’re seeking gentle closure or a sincere path to reconnect, you are not alone. At psychichealer.co.za, I hold a compassionate, confidential space for your heart’s truth. Together, we’ll decide if your soul is asking for repair, rest, or rebirth—and we’ll move toward it one grounded step at a time.
May your healing be steady, your boundaries strong, and your future love secure.